Okay, so I know that motivational quotes are a bit wanky and cringe, and I usually hate all that stuff, but bear with me on this one… (BTW is it ‘bear’ or ‘bare’ – both look wrong…).
The past 18 or so months have seen some big changes in my life; basically, a complete life overhaul. It’s been an unsettling, yet empowering time (god, now I sound REALLY wanky), and there have been a few quotes/sayings/words of wisdom which have helped focus my mind when I’ve needed it and helped me keep moving in the right direction. So I’m sharing these in the hope that it might help somebody else.
“Be yourself; everybody else is already taken” – Oscar Wilde
So I’ll see people (usually girls) on Instagram, at work, walking down the street or whatever and wish that I was as funny/pretty/interesting/hot/clever as them. Which instantly makes me feel shit. But as soon as I remember the above quote, the pressure instantly lifts, and I remember that I’m not them, and neither should I try to be. I have qualities that make me unique, and that make me me.
We all have the opportunity to create the most wonderful version of ourselves – don’t miss out on that by spending your life wishing you were someone else. Work with what you’ve got and embrace it! Do things that enhance your sense of self-worth; things that make you proud of yourself. And be a bit smug about it – you’re allowed to be! Above all, make sure you’re doing it for you and not to get approval/respect/love/admiration from others. I know this bit is hard, and it’s something I’m still working on, but if you really focus on yourself the rest will come with time. I promise. Alright, I can’t ACTUALLY promise that, but it’ll definitely help. Probably.
“Feel the fear and do it anyway” – Unknown.
I can’t remember where I heard this, but it’s probably the mantra that has helped me the most over recent years. In the past, if something scared me I just wouldn’t do it. As a result, I was stuck in an unhappy life. Now, I’ve learned to embrace that fear; keep it in a little ball inside of me; acknowledge it respect it, but not to let it stop me from doing what I know I need to do. After all, you can only move forward by doing things that challenge you, and just think how great the rewards will be. It’s true that success exists outside of your comfort zone. This philosophy has helped me through changes both big and small over the past two years; leaving a physically abusive relationship, learning to drive (still a work in progress and worthy of a blog post in its own right), getting a new job, numerous first dates, and starting this blog. Although next time my fear tells me not to go indoor skydiving, I might listen…
“And though she be but little, she is fierce” – William Shakespeare
I like this one because it’s cute. Although I guess that’s the opposite of what it’s supposed to be… This quote helps me to remember that just because I’m small and look 12 years old, that I can’t still be fierce. I’ve fallen into the habit of thinking that people perceive me a certain way because of how I look, when actually, I reckon it’s probably more my perception of myself than anything else. I can feel all strong and feisty and shit, then catch sight of myself in the mirror and all that confidence drains away. I need to keep reminding myself that small can be strong, and that it’s mental strength that matters above all else. I’m totally going to carry on trying to build a kick arse body though…
“Do your squats, eat your vegetables, wear Chanel, and don’t let boys be mean to you” – Unknown.
Self explanatory. And pretty much 100% how I live my life. If I have a peachy bum, a healthy digestive tract, an aroma of expensive perfume and only kind boys in my life, then I’m definitely doing something right.
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